Who am I?
Isn’t that the question that we spend years, sometimes even a lifetime, trying to answer? “Who am I?” is the foundation question to understanding and loving one’s own identity, whether that identity exists as an individual or within a personal relationship or business partnership.
Well, while that is integral to the work we’ll do together, let me give you the answer to this question that is true for me so far.
First and foremost, I’m someone who finds great joy in helping others achieve happiness in their lives. I spent a couple of decades enjoying a career in the Human Resources field, where I helped organizations and individuals become more successful. I started coaching during that career and, while learning the best practices for coaching, began developing my own strategies and techniques. I left the corporate world in 2009 and opened Doreen Petty Coaching, a private Transitions Coaching practice, in 2010.
Doreen Petty Coaching has three divisions; two of them support small business owners and aspiring entrepreneurs, and one is all about Life Coaching for people experiencing significant life changes. “Coaching the Boss™” helps small business owners with Leadership Coaching and HR Consulting while “Business Choice Coaching™” offers practical workshops and seminars to business owners and aspiring entrepreneurs. On the Life Coaching side, there is “We to Me Transitions™,” helping newly single people who are seeking to transition their identity from “We” to “Me” – and get back to happy.
If there was a label stamped on my forehead that told the world what I am inside, that label might read “Learner” and I certainly fit the description of a non-traditional student. I completed my undergraduate degree in business 19 years after finishing High School and completed my graduate degree in Psychology, specializing in Leadership Development and Coaching, just before starting my coaching practice. I believe that every experience and every interaction is an opportunity to learn. I prove that to myself often in my coaching and during my continuous professional development. I’ve used that love of learning to achieve certifications as a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) through the International Coach Federation, a Certified Professional Coach (CPC) and Master Practitioner of the Energy Leadership Index™ (ELI-MP) through the Institute of Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC), plus Brain-Based Coaching training with the Neuroleadership Institute (NLI). Learning is an integral part of who I am and how I choose happiness every day.
I am a Coach. It is more than what I do; it is who I am. My clients, friends, and family describe me as an intuitive, empathetic person who is keyed into the needs and wants of other people – someone who focuses on helping others as a way to achieve a life of purpose.
Where did this drive for purpose come from?
When I help people, my own level of satisfaction and happiness gets a boost – It just feels great when my clients achieve their goals and experience their own version of a happy life.
I chose to specialize a Life Coaching division on helping newly single people partly because I’ve faced my own relationship challenges. I married young and ended up divorced at 23, then lost my ex-husband to cancer before we had a chance to truly resolve the issues that forced us apart. Though I have been married to my second husband for more than 20 years, part of who I am was formed by that earlier relationship. Since then, I’ve had a number of opportunities to help people struggling in the aftermath of committed relationships and other significant life transitions – realizing early that the process is similar to transitioning through any significant loss. Following the end of a relationship or the shift of any part of how they define themselves, whether personally or professionally, people tend to move through patterns of loss, including denial, fear, anger, isolation, bargaining, sadness, and acceptance. The road to acceptance, and the new beginnings it allows, can be long and rocky without help to navigate challenges that can emerge on the journey.
Frankly, my heart hurts when I see other people suffering, especially when I know they have it within themselves to define and achieve happiness – often, all they need to have the life they want is someone to help them explore their possibilities – to set goals, recognize barriers to progress, and develop the skills to close the gap between their current existence and their desired future state.